i dont know how much lift i have, i want to know
what you are basically doing is putting the 258 internals in a 4.0 block, with the technology of a 4.0.... the life should not be any less than it would be with a 258.... though.... a longer stroke does put more stress on the connecting rods and cylinder walls... when one cylinder is pushing down, that will be pushing another cylinder upward.... but since the crank will be out at a greater distance perpendicular to the stroke, it will be pushing more horizontal in the cylinder wall... and with the added power from the 4.0's tech, and the increased displacement from the larger bore... it pushes at this horizontal much more than it does in the 258... still not TOO much of a problem to worry about.
joop... another thing you might think about for more power is getting the block decked... there will be about 1/32 to 1/16 inch left in the block for quech height at TDC from the difference in parts... that means that the piston will no come up ALL the way to the top of the block... which allows one of two things for you... you can get high dome pistons which can fit because of that... or you can deck the block... both for higher compression, which equals more power.... but then.... more power from compression equals more strain on the internal parts....
you can also get higher compression from a thinner head gasket... though... not only does high compression put more strain on the internals... you may also have to run pump gas.... ask your mechanic what he expects the final compression ratio to be.... if it is anything higher than 9.5-10:1.. then you may have to run a higher octane gas... but if your injectors are up to par, then you shouldn't have a problem...
one last thing when dealing with compression... platinum plugs are an enemy to high compression... they are often associated with detonation.. which is bad...