let me clarify as that sounds funny /\
the front axles are always engaged to the differential as jeep got rid of the actuator in the early 90s. the tcase is what engages the 4x4 to the front. when you drive, your front drive shaft is always turning from the front but doesn;t get any power till you put the tcase in 4 hi or 4 lo. so, if you have grinding, it might not be that it is stuck in 4x4, it might just have something in the bearings